Monday, November 4, 2013

The Itch

Honeymooning in Vail, Co. Best trip ever! 

Today we celebrate 7 years of marriage and I couldn't help but think of the 7 year itch. For those who are not familiar with the term, according to wikipedia, it's when happiness declines in your relationship after 7 years. There are many people who believe it happens. So I asked myself, 'Will this happen to my marriage?'

I came to the conclusion, and this is my personal opinion, that every marriage is so different that each will go through different phases. There will be times in your marriage that will seem harder than others. I don't believe that it's exactly after 7 years. It can be after 3 years, or 5, or 10. Each marriage will face it's times of challenge. And I do believe you will feel the happiness decline, but it will always be up to the both of you to boost it up. I can recall times with Gerson when I believed it could never go back to being good. I don't know why, I blame it on my hormones, but I didn't like him very much after Gael was born. He was always gone. I was always alone. And I blamed him for everything. But we chose to fix the problem and move forward loving each other more than we ever had. We chose love.

So if your relationship is going through an itch and you really want to overcome it, do the impossible together. Choose love.  Choose to fight for it. It will take a lot of work, but it will be worth it. Don't ever allow society to define your marriage's happiness.

Marriage is more than a big wedding or a piece of paper. It's a commitment that requires exactly that; staying committed mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. We are committed wholly. Loving through it all, good and bad.

Lastly, on this day, I would like to leave a love note to my one only -

Gerson, Thank you for always choosing to love me. Even when I wanted to give up, you have never given up on us. I don't believe in always being happy, yet you have made sure to always bring happiness to my life. You're my biggest blessing! I can confidently say that after 7 years we are stronger than ever. Loving each other more than we ever have. Thank you for that... For showing me that our love has no price. 




3 comments:

Mel Zarazua said...

I got teary eyed reading this! Happy 7 yr anniversary!

Adri said...

Thank you Mel!! :)

Viridiana Trevino said...

how nice :-)