Feelings

Gerson and I had a long distance relationship for the most part when we were dating.

The year we were engaged we were living only 4 hours away from each other. One afternoon I received a usual text saying " I miss you. " and then he added " I feel like having a drink with you. "

That evening as I got off from work, I'm walking to my car and there he was waiting for me. He had driven 4 hours to have a drink with me. I now realize that this man loves to surprise me.

We went to have dinner and he drove back to Dallas. I always cried when he left. We both had this desire to just be together. Married. No more distance cause distance sucks!

If you've been married for several years, do you remember that feeling? Not wanting to go home. Just wanting to be with that person all day and night. Driving miles just to see that person you love even if it was for a couple of hours. Cause to you it was worth it.

Those are the first stages of a relationship and it's beautiful. I like to remember those feelings with Gerson. Relationships change and grow. We now have the privilege of going home and waking up next to each other.

Don't ever take that for granted. There's nothing wrong with remembering even if your relationship is in a different stage. Personally, it's a reminder for me of how blessed we are to have found each other .

My 20's

Chicago 2009

So this week I turn the big 3-0.

I feel young and great but I do realize I'm entering that next level. It's exciting. I also remembered just yesterday that at 20 years old was when Gerson and I became friends. I spent all of my 20's enjoying birthdays with my love.  Therefore,  I've decided this week to share some of my "love story" memories with you.

One of my favorite anniversaries was when Gerson surprised me with a trip to Chicago. It was the night before, I was heading to bed and he said "I wanted to tell you at midnight but since you're going to bed I want to tell you that tomorrow at 6am we are going to Chicago as an anniversary trip!" I couldn't believe it! I thought well I have to call my boss and he had already done that for me. I stayed up til 4am packing. It was so exciting! All week he had told me he had made dinner plans for that weekend but I didn't know they would be in another city. It was so fun and special!

Actually, something I learned from this trip was that it's almost vital to take a weekend getaway with your loved one at least once a year if possible. Not a full vacation where you sight see and stuff. Just a mini getaway where you can go talk, reminisce, eat good food, and make love. No distractions, no worries, just feeling the love you have for one another. The place doesn't even matter. It's sort of like a little honey-moon. And I'm sure you're thinking I can talk, eat food, and make love in my own house, which you can, but there's something about just getting away. Even if it's 30 miles from where you live. It becomes about just the two of you. I recommend it!

Well, that's one of my favorites memories especially since I love surprises!

HAPPY MONDAY

Hershey's Kisses & Reminiscing

  

How was your Valentine's Day?

We had a great one. Very low key. Stayed home. Gerson was thoughtful and sweet as always. And as always Gerson included with all the little gifts Hershey's Kisses.

There are certain things that Gerson has done from the beginning of our love story. Ever since we were dating, on a special occasion, he would show up to my apartment and then eventually to our bedroom with breakfast and goodies from La Madeline. There's no La Madeline where we're living now, so he may have to change it. But another thing he does on Valentine's day is provide Hershey's kisses with my gifts.


Which always takes us back to when Gerson was pursuing me. We were just friends and ended up going to the same party. I had no idea he was going to be there. But he loved the way I looked and even remembers a necklace I wore that night. Well, my sweet and corny husband interrupted a conversation I was having with a friend, who was a guy, and bluntly asked "Can I give you kiss?" My friend obviously felt awkward. So I just gave him a "you're so lame" look and extended my hand towards him. I knew Gerson was always full of corny jokes and pick-up lines. He then handed me a Hershey's kiss.

Oh what a bliss to reminisce. :)


HAPPY FRIDAY EVERYONE!

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY

My 1st Valentine's Day present from my Valentine. ;)

Wishing everyone a HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!! This is a day to show love. Go and love on your loved ones! xoxo - Adri 
                                                            
To My Valentine: Today we celebrate our 10th Valentine's Day together. I remember them all.  There's no other man I would rather travel my journeys with than with you. My heart loves you solely and sweetly. No regrets, no turning back. Each high and low has molded our relationship in some way. And our love only keeps growing.  Love you always. 

He Completes Me.

A lady once told me that her life began when she got married. Now many of you may find that romantic, but I thought it was sad. It made me wonder if she was just a dull person. I absolutely love being in a relationship. I love marriage. I love monogamy. But I want to believe that I was happy way before I met Gerson. I was complete before him. Gerson did not define nor complete me. Honestly after listening to this lady, I just thought about my life and marriage. Was I wrong for not feeling the same? Did I not love my husband as much as she loves hers?

 I came to the conclusion that only God could do such thing. He has given meaning to my life. I love Gerson with my whole heart. Words can not even express how much love I have for him. He's made my life so much richer and beautiful. But my life began when I came to know God. He's given me purpose and love like no other. Thanks to Him I have been able to live an adventurous, blessed life. And because of Him, I am in a healthy marriage.

I know Valentines Day is approaching and we all get drawn to this lovely holiday. Even I do. But if you don't have a date or a boyfriend don't get all sappy and sad. Enjoy it! Go have fun with friends and family. And if you're in a relationship enjoy it as well. Do something sweet and special. We know nobody needs one day to love someone, but it's just for fun. You can love today and tomorrow! 

My advice is simply this, whether you're married or single, don't ever depend on someone to give significance to your life. That is a huge responsibility to give to an imperfect human being who will fail you. Allow God to give meaning, purpose, and definition to your life. He created you. He can complete you. 

Same Team. Same Side.

Several years ago, I was hanging out with a friend on his birthday. While we hung out he received a call from his dad. When he hung up he told me "I guess my dad forgot my birthday." I could not believe it. How could a parent forget their child's birthday? Well, my friend probably didn't like my reaction, so his response was "Adri, he didn't do it on purpose. He's probably busy and will remember later." Surely enough, his dad called him back within that hour to tell him happy birthday. "He didn't do it on purpose." has helped me so much in my marriage. I often think that Gerson and I make a great team. Actually, now more than ever, as parents I feel like we make a strong team. I know he's got my back. We do things being considerate of one another. However, it's not always perfect. There are times when we can't come to an agreement. Sometimes we argue. There are even times when he has made me so upset or has hurt me. But after all is said and done, I remember that he has my best interest at heart. He loves me and wants the best for me. He does not intentionally do something to hurt me. Very few husbands wake up saying "Today I am going to do something horrible to piss off my wife!" (vice versa) We all make mistakes. Have you ever thought about how you're also imperfect and have unintentionally hurt your spouse? Don't be so grudgeful. Have positive thoughts about your spouse. Remind yourself that both of you have made mistakes in your marriage and neither wakes up wanting to hurt one another. After all, you're both on the same team, same side.

Enough With the Hiatus!

Hey guys! I've missed writing so much. But with all the transitions that happened in one year, I think I had to take a break. Today however, I looked at my calendar and realized it's February 1st! What better month to break this hiatus than on the month of LOVE. ;) I've been keeping notes of so many love lessons I'm learning in my very own relationship. Having a child can really challenge your marriage. Not that Gerson and I had the perfect relationship (NEVER), but the first months are kind of tricky. There's just a lot of emotions...the wife is hormonal and the husband is, well, horny-onal. It's just different. And although I believe that every relationship deals with it differently, it can be challenging. I'm so glad weeks before having the baby, a good friend of mine told me "your marriage will change just don't freak out... it will go back to normal." So Gerson and I didn't freak out. We knew our lives had change... and it was for good. We took it day by day. We are doing the best we can for us and our baby. We give time to each other, to ourselves, and to our baby. It's important. At the end of the day, it's all good. I'm happy to be back and ready to share with you my lessons of love. ;)